Adam's Story

By: Adam Forgety

I was never AGAINST adoption, it was always an option, but God had to work on my heart to show me that adoption COULD possibly be our only option.

It all started when Khylee and I got back together the second time around.  I knew adoption was what Khylee wanted to do ever since she was a little girl, but now that we were back together and knew we were going to get married, the adoption reality was staring at me in the face.  Don't get me wrong, like I said before, I was never against adoption.  It's just I thought it would be nice for us to start our family off with a couple of Adalees and Khydams...and yes, we did think of those as our kids names...maybe different spellings.

So here we were, Khylee feeling that adoption could be the only way we have children, and me feeling that we should do both.  We decided to make a deal that each of us would pray that God would at least make each of us OK with how the other one felt.  And that's when it happened!  Actually, nothing happened, not for awhile at least.  I know you were expecting that prayers would be answered immediately.  Nope, it wasn't until a little over a year ago when God began to place people into my life to soften my heart toward adoption.  First was a man in our choir who shared with me that they had adopted their first son, which I didn't know they had.  Then shortly after that, another member of the choir shared with me that he was adopted, which I didn't know he was.  And the crazy thing about his story is that his biological last name was his adopted last name in Spanish!  The last thing was I had a surgery.  I won't tell you what surgery but I had a surgery.  And when I was laying on the couch in pain, I finally realized for the first time that I was never the one in control of even having birth children of my own.  This whole time I was making plans for my life that I had no control over.  I wasn't allowing God to build the family he desired for me.  Now the surgery had nothing to do with infertility, in fact the doctor assured us of that, but the fact is, it could have been a problem.  OK God you have my attention!

God did have my attention and what he was showing me was this...Many times, adoption is Plan B for those who cannot have biological children.  Not a bad thing at all, but he was showing me through Khylee and these other circumstances, that He wants adoption for us to be Plan A.  John Piper puts it this way in his sermon, Adoption: The Heart of the Gospel:

Adoption in God’s mind was not Plan B. He predestined us for adoption before the creation of the world. Plan A was not lots of children who never sin and never need to be redeemed. Plan A was creation, fall, redemption, adoption so that the full range of God’s glory and mercy and grace could be known by his adopted children. Adoption was not second best. It was planned from the beginning.
In our lives, there is something uniquely precious about having children by birth. That is a good plan. There is also something different, but also uniquely precious, about adopting children. Each has its own uniqueness. Your choice to adopt children may be sequentially second. But does not have to be secondary. It can be as precious and significant as having children by birth. God is able to make adoption an A+ plan in our lives.  Scripture reference (Ephesians 1:4-6)

I am so thankful I was not Plan B on God's mind.  I am so thankful He has put in my heart a love for children who may not look like me, talk like me or have the same type of background as me.  But the truth is is that I didn't look like Jesus, talk like Jesus or have the same background as Jesus for God to love me and adopt me into His family, where only four of my brothers and sisters look anything like me!


Martin Luther King Jr. Day

By: Courtney

Most Americans probably went through their day today just like any other day. (besides perhaps the slight annoyance that the bank or post office was closed)

This year this holiday has taken on a new meaning for me. I soon will be the parent of a child whose skin is different than mine. Our family won't be just like every other family on the block. I am sure we will face some if not lots of opposition.

I obviously studied Martin Luther King, Jr. in school but now, as an adult, everything this man did and stood for means so much more to me.

Today while looking online for a specific Martin Luther King, Jr. quote, I found several that just blew my mind. He spoke not only against racism but ALL social injustice. I couldn't stop reading. Quote after quote after quote.  WOW. I would love to say just ONE thing in my lifetime that is a fraction as profound as one of these quotes and he has MULTIPLE profoud quotes!

One theme that really stood out for me in several of Martin Luther King, Jr.'s quotes was this:
Allowing the bad is just as harmful as the actual act.

Here are some quotes from Martin Luther King, Jr. that really spoke to me today:

He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

History will have to record that the greatest tragedy of this period of social transition was not the strident clamor of the bad people, but the appalling silence of the good people.

Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable... Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.

I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made straight and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed and all flesh shall see it together.

Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?'

The first question which the priest and the Levite asked was: "If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?" But... the good Samaritan reversed the question: "If I do not stop to help this man, what will happen to him?"

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.

I hope even just ONE of these quotes will stir your heart like they did mine.

Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitue. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.
Proverbs 31:8-9


Here's to 2012! New Year = New Beginnings

By: Courtney

New Year = New Beginnings
I love starting a new year. It is amazing the difference one day can make.
It is a 

I love the hope, inspiration, and encouragement that comes from new beginnings. We all want to be better versions of ourselves. And WHY NOT!?!?
While many of us are making new year’s resolutions of -
eating less & working out more
I want to challenge us all to consider resolutions or goals for the year that are within. Inside
Here are some goals for 2012 that would be a great idea for any of us....

Read my bible daily.
Study my bible. Dive deep into His word.
Memorize scripture.
Hold my tongue more.
Bicker less.
Gossip less.
Love more.
Give more.
Make a difference.
Live on less. Spend less.
Less of me and more of Christ.
Be an encouragement to my family.
Work less.
Spend more time with family.
Share Christ more.
Every year I hear all the naysayers: “Why waste your time?” “Why set false expectations for yourself?” "These resolutions will be gone within a week." (Well, maybe if I lied to myself and made my resolution to Workout Daily.)
Oh, the naysayers....
Get behind me naysayers!
WE can’t. But Christ CAN.
Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!   2 Corinthians 5:17 
No one is perfect. (Well, there was ONE...) None of us will reach perfection until heaven, so we should all be striving every year to improve.

I am not saying you have to have 30 resolutions and beat yourself up over not reaching all of them daily. 
Pick one.
Pick two.
Focus on these daily.  Not for a few days. Not for a week. Daily
I know January 1st has already come and gone but there are still 361 more days left this year.  Take some time with the Lord and be silent. Be diligent about earnestly seeking Him. Pray and ask Him what He would like you to focus on. Allow Him to lead you.
It’s a new Year! It can be a new you, a new me! Christ makes all things new!

Be encouraged.
Be inspired.
One of my favorite lines from any song ever is Switchfoot’s “Always”
Hallelujah, every breath is a second chance
This new year means a second chance! A second chance to become a better version of ourselves. A second chance to live more like Christ. A second chance to live a changed life with a changed heart.
Allow Him to use you! Who knows where He will lead you!
I am so excited to see what Christ will do in our lives in 2012! For us, I know 2012 will change our lives drastically!

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade—kept in heaven for you. 1 Peter 1:3 & 4


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